MILESTONE |
CONSEQUENCE FOR
CHILD |
EFFECT ON
FAMILY |
Intellectual broadening, wider interests
and greater awareness of and curiosity about the
world. Ability to think in abstract terms.
|
Starts to question things previously taken
for granted. Wants to discuss and debate issues.
|
Parents have a fresh chance to get to know
their offspring.
|
Specific
intellectual skills, e.g. ability at math,
science, or language may emerge.
|
May not be given the
chance to develop these skills if "written
off" by teachers or parents at an earlier
stage. |
Parents need to wait
until the child's mid-teens before drawing
conclusions about intellectual ability.
|
May develop strong
interest in an artistic subject such as music or
painting. |
May neglect school
work in favor of the new interest.
|
Parents need to
recognize that their child may have abilities
beyond their comprehension.
|
Becomes socially and
physically adventurous, wanting to travel
independently. |
Even mature young
adults believe they are immortal, young people
may not follow recommended safety precautions.
|
Parents may want to
discourage activities that they know to be
dangerous, but risk antagonizing their child.
|
Idealistic
|
Attempts to find a
social or political cause to be committed to.
May turn to religious cults or movements.
|
Parents may be
distressed at the child's rejection of
their own religion or beliefs.
|
Involvement with
life, work, and relationships outside the
family.
|
Must learn to cope
with related stresses. Probably want to go with
friends instead of joining in the family
vacation. |
Parents'
natural wish to protect their child may cause
friction. Parents may want to enjoy their kind
of vacation. |
Has to set him
- or herself on a course to achieve
financial or emotional independence.
|
Anxieties or
uncertainty about the future can wreak havoc
with temper, confidence, and self-esteem.
|
Parents may still be
financially supporting an adolescent who is not
emotionally dependent on them. This can make for
an uneasy and unequal relationship.
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